Time really flies!
Its been exactly 21 days that I have been “promoted” to being a mummy. 🙂
Lotsa challenges, moments of “lost”, not knowing what baby wants etc.. Of course, sleepless nights.
In Singapore, it is common that we have “confinement lady” to help us for the first 28 days. During which, the mummy will use this time to recover her health and the CL will help to cook and take care of baby.
As usual, i did the sourcing of CL through the forum. As this year is also one of the more popular chinese zodiac, a lot of the highly rated CLs are all taken up. In the end, i took the recommendation of a top rated CL to engage her friend. Bad move.
Approx 2 weeks before my due, kept receiving missed calls then SMS from the CL to remember to call her when i deliver. I kept replying okok… of course i will. Anyway, to cut long story short, the CL was a disaster. The moment she came in, she started complaining non-stop. N CLs are supposed to be supportive of new mummys.. No? She complained about no sterilized bottles ready to use. (I was suppose to do that, but baby decided to see the world earlier. Ok, partially my bad) Then about the stuffs that we bought. Baby clothings.. (I bought a number of kimono types as I worry to go overheads.) Baby towels, toys, bottles (Dr Browns)… etc. Nothing was really to her preference. For the next few days, had the same food coked the same way over and over. Ok, i was thinking, perhaps confinement food is boring.. Though i have seen some really promising ones from the forum previously. I was thinking, okay, baby is more important, my needs are secondary.
However, during the nights, we can hear Baby crying really badly. It turned out that the CL was sleeping so soundly that only when baby “screams”, she awakes.. Then throughout the day, she is always in the room.. SLEEPING… With blinds fully down. Room utterly dark. Seems like she is sleeping more than me! Best comment I received from her was “how come your baby cannot differentiate night and morning?” I was like giving her a mega “DUH” look. Then countered by saying: “oh… maybe because you made the room dark whole day thus baby just thought that it is night time throughout! To think that she is supposed to be the one guiding me along.. Totally lost faith in her after a few days. I was feeling so stressed up and depressed that I worry I couldn’t take it anymore. In addition to that, she always made sarcastic remarks to the hubby as well. From where we put our household stuffs, to size of bedroom when we just wanted to share the aircon flow and shift the baby cot. After 5 days of nightmare, we asked her to go on the 6th day.
Took over 2 nights to take care of the baby and baby doesnt really cry that much! (sense of satisfaction. 🙂 ) But it was really tiring since i still gotta manage the pumping sessions, housework, cooking etc… Thus i decided to still source for help. Got a part time nanny to come in for 1 afternoon. Kinda expensive for a few hours, but a much needed help while i continued my search.
I was going through my previous list of shortlisted CLs and thought maybe i could give them a call again just to see if someone might be available. Woala!! I managed to secure one! Just a precaution, I called, chatted, shared my experience with her first. Likewise, the auntie shared her “horror” employer as well. Turned out, we seem to be a perfect match at a perfect time. 🙂 She was her the next morning at 8am. My saviour….:) Auntie Hui Feng.
Aunty was completely different from my 1st CL that I need to ask her to please take some rest! Her routine starts from around 7am. (Preparing my bathing needs, my herbal soups, bathing, feeding baby)
Baby Needs – Well taken care of!! You can really differentiate when you see someone sincere. With Aunty, we feel that even baby feel more at ease! 🙂
Food – Superbbbbb !!!! Each meal was different. Tastes were good. Quality was restaurant standard. Both Ed & I enjoyed so much!
Household – Though not a must, she offered to help on laundry and hubby’s ironing. But we requested her not to do it since we already have another helper that comes in weekly to help with those.
Mummy’s needs – She is more like a 2nd mum to me. Kept asking me to rest. Preparing soups every meal. Handing me my drinks before and after my pumping sessions.. Recommending supplements to increase milk supply etc etc.. I feel so much more relaxed with her… 🙂
Indeed, a good CL is hard to come by. Just one more week before Aunty leaves, I better pick up some baby skills from her! Will definitely miss her and engage her again if I have a No. 2 in future.
**Posting food pics next.